Benny Blanco's Gentlemanly Silence: What He Won't Spill About Selena Gomez

Music producer Benny Blanco, 38, just drew a very firm line in the sand—and it has nothing to do with a legal document.

During the Tuesday, May 12 episode of his Friends Keep Secrets podcast, cohost Lil Dicky asked Blanco a question many people would probably wonder about: what’s it like being intimate with his wife, Selena Gomez? The answer? Don’t expect any details.“I’m not allowed to talk about that publicly,”Blanco said, firmly shutting down the conversation before it could even begin.

But here’s where it gets interesting. When pressed on whether Gomez, 33, had actually forced him to sign a non-disclosure agreement—you know, the legal kind that celebrities sometimes use to keep their private business private—Blanco pushed back. No NDA required.“No, I’m just, like, a gentleman,”he explained.“It’s kind of just, like, a thing I do. I’m a gentleman or something. I don’t know.”It’s the kind of answer that makes you either believe him completely or wonder if he’s just really smooth at deflecting. Probably both.

This restraint stands in sharp contrast to how openly affectionate Blanco has been about Gomez in other contexts. Back in March 2025, he gushed to Interview magazine about their connection, revealing that by their second date he was already convinced she was his wife.“The second we started hanging out, I was like,‘This is my wife,'”he recalled.“I was telling my mom,‘This is the girl I’m going to marry.'”That certainty turned into reality when they actually tied the knot in September 2025.

The couple’s wedding day was reportedly as joyful as their relationship sounds. According to an insider who spoke to Us Weekly, Gomez was radiating joy throughout the ceremony—so much so that she didn’t stop smiling or crying happy tears all day. Lil Dicky, 38, who officiated the ceremony, kept everyone laughing and emotional at all the right moments. When Gomez appeared on Blanco’s podcast in March, she called that wedding day a“pivotal moment”in her life, the moment when she fully realized what she wanted.

What’s refreshing about Blanco’s stance isn’t just that he respects his wife’s privacy—plenty of celebrities do that. It’s that he frames it as simply part of who he is, not as a restriction imposed on him. In a celebrity culture obsessed with oversharing, there’s something genuinely appealing about a guy who keeps the most intimate parts of his relationship exactly where they belong: between him and his wife.